If you're a parent or caregiver of a child with a developmental disability, you've likely sat through your fair share of IEP (Individualized Education Program) and IPP (Individual Program Plan) meetings.

You’ve also probably walked away from at least one of those meetings feeling frustrated, unheard, or confused.

Let’s change that.

You have a powerful voice—and with the right tools and preparation, you can use it to make sure your child’s needs, strengths, and dreams are truly at the center of every plan.

Wait—What’s the Difference Between an IEP and an IPP?

Let’s break it down in simple terms:

• IEP = School Support Plan
  A legally binding document developed with your child’s public school team. It outlines educational goals, accommodations, and special education services.

• IPP = Regional Center Life Plan
  A person-centered plan developed with your Regional Center service coordinator. It focuses on services outside of school—like social skills, respite care, job support, or independent living.

Both plans are essential—and you are an equal and important member of both teams.

Before the Meeting: How to Prepare

1. Make a List of What’s Going Well—and What’s Not
   Write down your observations. Where is your child thriving? Where are they struggling? Use real-life examples.

2. Know What You’re Asking For
   Whether it’s a 1:1 aide at school or respite support through the Regional Center, get clear on your “asks.” Look up what services are available—or ask others in parent groups.

3. Gather Documentation
   Bring any relevant documents: evaluations, progress notes, doctor reports, schoolwork samples, or your own notes.

4. Review Their Rights (and Yours)
   Familiarize yourself with the Lanterman Act (for IPP) and IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, for IEP). You don’t have to be a legal expert, just know that your child has the right to supports that help them succeed.

5. Bring a Support Person if You Can
   An advocate, friend, or even another parent can help you feel more grounded and confident.

During the Meeting: What to Say and How to Stay Grounded

• Start with Strengths
  “One thing I love about my child is…”
  “Here’s what’s going really well lately…”

• Be Clear and Direct About Needs
  “We’ve noticed that [describe concern]. We’d like to talk about support for that.”
  “I believe this is affecting their learning/life at home, and I’d like to explore solutions.”

• Use Person-Centered Language
  Remind the team: “What matters most is what my child wants and needs—how do we keep them at the center of this plan?”

• Ask Questions Without Fear
  “Can you explain what that means?”
  “Is there another option if that’s not working?”
  “How will we know this is helping?”

• Take Your Time
  You don’t have to agree to everything on the spot. You can say:
  “I’d like to think about this and follow up tomorrow.”

After the Meeting: Follow Through and Follow Up

• Request a copy of the IEP or IPP
  Review it and make sure it reflects what was discussed.

• Put Follow-Ups in Writing
  Email the team if you’re waiting on next steps, evaluations, or changes.

• Celebrate the Wins
  Even small wins—like getting one service in place—are worth acknowledging. You’re building momentum.

Remember: You Are Not “Just a Parent”—You Are a Key Decision-Maker

Whether it’s a teacher, specialist, or service coordinator—no one knows your child like you do. You are their strongest advocate. You have every right to speak up, ask for clarity, and ensure your child’s voice is at the heart of every plan.

Need Help Preparing for an IEP or IPP?

Let’s get you ready. I offer one-on-one support to help families feel confident walking into any meeting.

📅 Book a free consultation to talk through your concerns, prepare your questions, or practice what to say. Your voice matters—and I’m here to help you use it.